"The woman won't be disconnected from the man and the man will be one with the woman"

Every utopia is in fact a turth reminding itself. The utopia of soulmates is exactly something like this. The desire to reunite, the search, the longing, hope, all these are the proofs of an existing utopia.

Everybody wants to find their mate. To be loved by somebody special in a special way. Everbody wants to be happy, to love and to be loved.

The subject of poems, songs, novels and stories is usually that.

That peace coming from the sense of looking into the eyes of someone familiar, the pride of noticing to be desired, the warmth that flows from the hands, to talk and to be understood, the attraction of the skin, watching them in admiration for long, to be proud of them, to feel good, being able to have belly laughs to simplest things, the sense of security that comes from supporting each other in times of difficulty, an endles enthusiasm, long insatiate making love, the satisfaction from eevry moment of life when with them, to feel like one person with them, insatiate making love...and...child..their tiny hands, little lips, the warmth that heats your heart...and family..Here is an utopia!

And the journey to reach this utopia. Tries, pain of love, disappointments, crisises of jealousy and anger.

One of the important conditions of happiness is mate and the other is work. When we have found our mate and work we have progressed quite much it means.

Finding soulmate has been primarily important lately for people involved in spiritual matters. As someone obsessed on this matter, suffered for it and found his soulmate I have a few things i would like to share.

First important point is being strictly determined and never going back. Without concession and hopelessness showing effort.

I don't know if it's necessary to say, this effort is possible by firstly discovering ourselves and transforming negative beliefs against building a healthy relationship.

Meanwhile to know which kinds of people are right for us we need to make a lot of tries.

Then to love ourselves and embrace our unique being.

Reaching the beloved inside you.

Being able to be free to live your sexualty free from all feelings of taboo, fear and sin.

Knowing your life goal and being determined to walk on that path. Moreover not even letting your own self to get in your way.

To have been able to stay alone, discovering our special talents and discovering our special work when coming to this world.

To be free from social conditionings and patterns.

And to be determined for any kind of change when finding your soulmate.

To give up on our habbit of living with strict patterns and unchangabale rules. And opening our hearts widely for lots of laughter, endless peace, sharing and surprises.

I can hear you say "Does this have to be so difficult?"

Actually thee is another way. registering to the soulmates archives department and wait patiently until a soulmate appropriate for you is found!

It is said that in the beginning the humen being had one gender. Supposedly before the age of Lemurians beings on earth had one gender. Later for evolution an era of two genders was entered for evolution. It's not bad at all, is it? Doubtlessly there has been times we have had objections for this result. There have been people who decide to live alone and say "I don't need a relationship". But actually we (just like about everything else) had requested that result. So who falls down on his own doesn't cry. Seriously if we hadn't known about how the reuniting of two different energies create such high energies we wouldn't have made this happen.

FIRST STEP: PURE INTENTION AND DETERMINATION

Just like happiness, success or peace doesn't happen by itself, or a result of a big blessing ro coincidence, finding the soulmate reqires a strict determination, effort and experience. The first condition is to know that every search results from a power to acquire, if what we were searching didn't give us the signal 'I'm here' we wouldn't have had the desire to do this.

The other is that the Universe is full of limitless choices and limitless possibilities. This is not to be forgotten either. In fact believing in no alternative is the job of the Egoic Consciousness.

During one of my seminars a lady had got lost in thoughts with a sad face. When I asked the reason she answered me in a way I never could have imagined. Already there weren't good guys around and now getting these special information was limiting the possibilities. Then I said to her "If in this world there is one person, alive, for them all possibilities and tools are ready with their substitutes. But they ened to will and keep searching." In fact every time I see the validity of this thought of mine.

To search and not stopping searching, focusing on the goal without getting tired or losing hope is necessary. Moreover after believing that it is found, working on making this relationship better. 

Because life is not a result seeking effort but a process. It's a journey towards growing and raising and there may be stops on this journey but there is in fact no final stop.

NEVER WITHOUT FALLING IN LOVE WITH ONESELF

Some consultants of mine after the very first session get feedbacks fromt heir environments as "hat happened to you? You are more beautiful." or "There is something about you, are you in love". And I answer them "Yes you are in love, with yourselves!"

Truly a sweet smile appears on the faces of people who have got freee of their fears, unnecessary feelings of guilt, too many responsibilities loaded on them. The tensions on their facial muscles disappear. When they stop judging themselves unnecessarily and realize how unique and beautiful they in fact are, they create an area of attraction. Their skin gets brighter, their expressions get softer, their eyes enlivens. Their walking and posture changes. They becoem confident, attractive and sexy; which is what they are!

This is a must condition towards finding the soulmate. In afct it's a must condition for anything!

If you constantly criticise yourself, if there is a voice inside you that tells you that you are inadequate and flawed, this effects your whole body and life. If you want to reach that wonderful soulmate of your dreams, first yu must become the you of your dreams.

First see how you define yourself. What is inside the sentences starting with 'I'. I am clumsy. I am fickle, I am such constantly they tense you, dry you out and make you ugly. Your electromagnetic field around you, the water inside the cells that make up your body, the subconscious of other people and the universal intelligence gets this message aaaaannnd

they treat you in this way.

Never say anything negative about yourself, even to places, furniture and other people because everything has an information keeping area.

It's a big contradiction to call yourself stupid, ugly, unfortunate and expecting good things from people, places(for example your work place), your body , life in summary .

When a consultant of mine told me that when she looked at herself in the mirror she said "Pig! that's what you are" I felt an ache inside. Her health wasn't good, her relationships weren't good and even her child was sick.

She remembered her father saying when she was little "my fat nosed big eared daughter". In fact she was a tall, pretty lady. But their father had raised both kids like boys.

Then say positive things to everything about you. From your hair to the pen you use! Try this for two months and if it doesn't work I'll be right here!.
 

PREJUDICES ARE WALLS IN FRONT OF MEETING

If you want to meet your soulmate you need to write down your prejudices on paper and work on them. You may have a prejudice about age, that man has to be older than the woman definitely, or that the age difference shouldn't be over ten years, you may have a prejudice about the religion, a prejudice about the cultural level and social environment! Soulmates may be incarnated in different situations also to destroy these judgements.

The need of being exactly alike with your soulmate is another prejudice. In fact you are their complementary and they are yours. Therefore differences are advantages.

Another prejudice is that thinking you will fly to a world of magic without any problem and clash. Yes often it is so.. But not always! It takes time to change the habbits you have brought from the past.

Patience may be needed for the process of adjustment. Your fears, and wrong beliefs may get in your way. But you as a person who has solved these know what to do.
 

NEVER WITHOUT SEXUALITY

Sexual energy is not another part of our whole energy but another name of it. If you have supressed your sexual energy, if you have setbacks in front of living yourself as a man or a woman, it means that you at the same time have setbacks for being succesful, peaceful and healthy. If you are a woman it's very important that you wear attractive feminine clothes and b well groomed. If you are a man it's important that you educate yourself about using your power, being flexible in sex and not being goal oriented. In fact being well kept and clean is a must condition for both sides. Accepting sex as an act of worship and not forgetting that bedroom is a sacred area increases the pleasure. And where there is pleasure there is no unhappiness.

Taking care of one's body, doing sports, eating well and most important of all leading a life in tune with the life purpose, we can attract our soulmate.

Seing sex as a duty, as a tool of satisfaction done by one, sin and a dirty job are the most important blocks of pleasure.
 

DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE

Every person is born with a life purpose. They either discover this purpose and live it, or dies without realizing it. This purpose is recorded on the subconscious and they arrange their whole life according to that purpose. Their family, talents etc. General purpose of life is love. To learn and live love completely and The private life purpose is little goals in tune with this general purpose. Freedom, respect, understanding, flexibility, saying no to unjustice and expressing creativity are a few of these.

When you discover what your life purpose is, all of a sudden everything starts to click. An effect of domino is created and all pieces of your life find their places. Work, relationship, family, social environment, health, and physical environment and of course YOUR SOULMATE!

Your life purpose is what you have always wanted to do but were always blocked to. What you need most but what you can give best, what challenges and upsets you most. what you have always pursued but have never reahced. What is inside you, in your hands but what you have always searched outside. When you discover it all pieces really find their places. It is inside you. What you search is always in your hands in fact.

A consultant of mine was always complaining about his father's lack of understanding, finally we discovered that his life purpose was understanding. His father loved him as he knew how to, and he was trying to give him good things as much as he could. What he did was what he could. That was what he needed to udnerstand. Once he understood that everything would fall in place!
 

FOLLOW THE SIGNS!

Life is in fact a big consciousness and this intelligence communicates with us through events. When you intend to something this intelligence gets activated and following a special path towards your intention , brings you the result at its right time.

The same thing happens when you request to meet your soulmate. Watching the following events carefully and the ability to enter through the opened doors must be shown.

I rememeber that i lived a simislar process. Everything started when I got an invitation for a congress from Izmir. I immediately responded postively to this invitation.

She was there that day and I didn't recognize her. She was a far dream for me. Later a homeopath friend of mine gave me medicine. I felt like a bird for a week. According to this friend of mine during this process my system had settled. Then I faced a past life therapist. I saw there an oath I had taken in a past life. Later I remembered the moment I had seen her in a crowded room from the back and my body felt frozen with admiration. It was just like the moment of Eros shooting his arrow. But I hadn't stayed on it. Everything was really like a dream and my soulmate was a dream specialist! I had pushed the doors opened for me and got gifts presented. I had listened to the voice of my heart and I'm glad I did.

When you intend to listen to your heart, just talk to it. Be sure that you will definitely get parasite sounds from outside. Things like "She is not right for you, we didn't like her" Then the dialogues you hear inside your head.

Your intuitions reach you from a place further than all thse. From the depths of your heart. We can call it your abdomen if you like. The area we call "solar plexus" is where our big mind in fact works.

When you have a problem give your attention there and then focus on your third eye. Don't think anything or make guesses. Stop and wait. The message will appear open and clear.
 

YOUR EGO IS AN ENEMY OF LOVE, BEWARE!

Your ego (which creates the discussion) wants to escape in the slightest discussion, finds for itself excuses. It is ready to be angry, resentful and blaming. Watch out, ego is the enemy of love. Ego doesn't trust love or happiness much. Because once somewhere its heart has been broken it geenrlizes this. It keeps saying that this will always happen. It believes that. But you don't believe it. Convince it. sat to it that one time thing will not always happen. Talk and compromise. If you don't compromise with it it will sabotage and block you for sure. It does this very well. If you don't make this concilliation at once it will cost you a lot of time. It is very good at finding excuses.It makes up things like "I love my freedom buddy" or "There is no good guy around". And you sometimes become its onstrument and proudly defend this. You think its your own idea.

When you move lonely, sad and troubled know that this is the exact situation.

Understand it. It just wants you protect you against dangers, It doesn't have a bad intention. Tell it that the danger is over. Write down on a notebook its hesitations and the fears. On the other page your answers. Present it suggestions. Suggestions that will make both sides win. One side shall be the side who wants to find its mate and be happy the other shall be the ego.

When the concilliation is over you will see that miracles will happen. Because the subconscious that is invaded by the egoic consciousness is free now. You have united the two and all doors start to open before you.